Dealing with Mother’s Day in blended families

Due to the high amount of blended families that make up the modern family, attempting to figure out how to properly celebrate Mother’s Day can be a minefield. After all, it is not unheard of to have to consider step-parents, parents, and other adults that take on the parental roles when planning a Mother’s day celebration.

Attempting to figure out where children should spend the day, who to buy gifts for, and how to celebrate if certain parties do not get along can be enough to make you want to bypass the tradition altogether.

However, even if you do not want to deal with the stress that comes with blending together families that do not get along for a holiday, the children need you to do so because they look for you to help guide them through the conflicting information they receive and how you deal with the situation will help teach them how to tackle difficult situations in the future.

The first thing you need to do is accept the feelings of your children, even if you do not like them. It is only natural if you are jealous that your ex has someone before you, but you need to let it go for the moment because a child needs to be able to make their own decisions about how to feel about the new parental figure in their life. Remember, your child will have to deal with both sides of the family for the rest of their lifetime, so there is no reason to make it difficult for them to do so.

You also need to make sure that you are not competing with the new stepparent or significant other, because you will always be your child’s parent first and foremost and nothing will change that. Therefore, do not ruin your relationship with your child out of contempt for the other party.

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